Frequently Asked Questions

What is this blog about?

Everyone makes mistakes. Some are real big and some are real small. This blog focuses on “the real big” ones; the ones that haunt you and make you feel guilty and ashamed. The solution to our suffering and despair is, we believe, forgiveness. We will help you find it.

Why is this a Christian blog?

One word: motivation. Finding the motivation to forgive oneself, or others, is often the hardest part of the process. The desire to forgive is often intertwined with a person’s belief system. Although we mean no disrespect to other faith traditions, or those who do not believe in God at all, this blog focuses on helping motivated Christians ease their burden through self-forgiveness.

A (brief) Statement of Faith

Apart from forgiveness, Christianity makes no sense. Without faith in God’s forgiveness through Christ, we might as well stay seated during the singing of Amazing Grace. Central to our faith is the belief that God has forgiven us and that we should, in response, forgive others as well as ourselves. This blog attempts to discuss forgiveness within a Christian framework. Where valid and helpful we include aspects of self-forgiveness that impact a person’s mental and physical health.

What is self-forgiveness?

Forgiveness of self (or others) is not a prehistoric artifact of an ancient religion. It is the vibrant, life-giving relief from guilt and shame promised by God, under certain conditions.

What self-forgiveness is NOT

We do not LITERALLY forgive ourselves. Only God can do that. Self-forgiveness means that we must figure it out on our own, without the help of a pastor, counselor and/or other liturgical helps. It is much like a self-help exercise, requiring each individual to explore their conscience on their own; in the secrecy of their own heart and home.

Why do we have to figure it out on our own?

In the past, a person might find relief from confessing their sins to their pastor or priest, followed by some form of absolution. Likewise, confession was often addressed in corporate worship services. However, today people do not go to confession. For example, only 2% of Catholics go to confession and 75% never go at all. Protestants have increasingly veered toward a non-liturgical form of worship, and thus omit traditional expressions of confession and assurance of pardon. Therefore, modern Christians must humbly roll up their sleeves and seek forgiveness on their own. This is what we mean by self-forgiveness.

Who are we?

Michael Barry
Loren Toussaint

What is unique about this blog?


Forgiveness is a complex issue. It is also an area of great interest to most people, if for no other reason, humans are prone to making mistakes and thus burdened by guilt and shame. More research has been done on the topic of self-forgiveness in approximately the last 10 years than in the last 100 years combined. In combination with Christian doctrine, this blog makes the recent data usable for Christians who desire to live a relevant life of faith.